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View Full Version : my girl is gone...im very sad
yea yea, guys site, but gotta vent out somehow.
been with my gf for 2 1/2 yrs now, never had a fight, spent all day yesterday shopping and checking out the big Xmass tree downtown, nice day and all.
came back home, get on AIM, get a message at midnight saying that she wants time off and that shes breaking up with me.
too many things going on in her life and no time for me :(
this is the same girl that talked about family with me, kids, moving in together soon, all that.... our families are all good friends, so it seemed perfect and bulletproof, when we met we both were in relationships, and broke up with them to be together.
well happy holidays i guess
slept 30 mins last night...
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CJ_Boxster
11-26-2007, 18:27
Damn DJ, sorry about that. Did you try to talk her out of that idea yet? Maybe try to tell her you will cool it with the marriage talk and take it one day at a time?
blinkwatt
11-26-2007, 18:35
Dude you good. Try not to worry about it.
Your a cool young dude,in college and have a nice car. Ride that out.
Gary in BR
11-26-2007, 19:01
Man thats tough.
Sorry about that, I went though a break up a few years ago. Its hard and nothing anyone can tell you will make it any different. Focus on yourself, college, car, whatever just focus on something besides her.
cvhs18472
11-26-2007, 20:05
Take your car out for a ride, pick up some little Cha Cha Dancer, go home, have some fun, send her home and realize that you just spent the evening without your ex and survived. Not being mean or cold hearted but very few people go through life without problems such as this. I have a feeling, with the good taste you show by owning a Porsche, that you deserve better than her.
RandallNeighbour
11-26-2007, 20:16
DJ, remain friends with her and contact her now and then to see how she's doing and be the friend you were to her for those years.
She most certainly didn't want to lose a friend, just a boyfriend.
This is a good strategy because she may go out with other guys and discover just how good she had it with you and come back more committed than ever if you remain friends.
What puzzles me though is that she dated you exclusively for 2.5 years and broke up with you with an instant message. That shows a great deal of immaturity. She should have sat down with you in person and talked it out.
Hopefully, dating other guys will show her what she missed out on with you. However, if I were you I'd ask her to sit down with you in person and tell you why she's breaking up with you. Letting her know that you won't interrupt or try to change her mind may well give her the courage to talk to you.
What she says may be very valuable information for your future.. with her or another woman.
PS - She sure is a beautiful young woman! You've got great taste.
Boxtaboy
11-26-2007, 20:57
Sorry to hear DJ, but don't let it get you too down. You're still young and have plenty of opportunities to meet other terrific gals in this world. Who knows anyway- she may just change her mind about the whole thing in the next few days. As others mentioned, maybe try to see if she would be willing to sit down and talk about it, so that you both have a chance to understand each others sides to the issue.
Who breaks up by way of AIM, anyway? I'm sure she knows that's uncool, and should giive you a chance to talk it thru. Good luck, but regardless of how it turns out- there's a reason for everything happening, so don't get too down.
hey thx guys really,
Nick even offered to go out for drinks and talk about it :cheers:
and yea, things happen for a reason.
i did go to talk to her in person, didn't go that well, she said that she needs time and space like i said, and that she is confused about her life, and that she cant make me happy when shes not happy herself.
she said shes been trying to tell me this for the past month :(
her ex bf before me was an asshole, threatened to beat her up and other things, and I've been nothing but nice to her, and i mean that, very careful, and spent a lot of time with her, so its definitely not me, well at least i don't think so.
i told her to sort trough whatever she needs to do and let me know, so its up and away and in her hands. i am not gonna force anyone to do anything, so if its meant to be then it will be, if not then i don't know.
this time and space, how the hell do i know how long that takes?
what am i supposed to do now, i mean i asked her what do you expect from me now? she just said nothing.
that doesn't tell me much.
this is the only girl that i truly did care about and had plans with and stuff like that so its like extra weird and hard, especially when its out of the blue from my point of view.
i dunno really what to think anymore so ...
but i did go for a nice drive in the box, enjoyed all the squeaks and rattles :D
PhxRealtor
11-26-2007, 22:20
Act like you are happy with the situation (as far as she can see) and have some fun. This will make her want you more than if you chase her now. Hang in there! :D
xxxalexxxx
11-26-2007, 22:27
Hey man, sorry to hear that. I kinda know what ur going thru my gf of 3 yrs broke up with me, she was like my best friend so i was crushed for a while but then i got to know to this girl who was a friend of my sisters who I wouldn't never though id end up with, in fact we didnt even like each other all that much back then but the more we hung out, the more we clicked and ive been dating her for 2 yrs now and im happier then ive ever been in my life. im a better person cuz of he-r all of my family n friend said i treat them better and care more about the people who r important to me so i guess ive changed for the better with her. so u never know what lifes gonna bring at u.
so if she broke up with u it was meant to be for whatever reason and im sure ull find someone who'll make u even happier. as far as trying to get back together/being friend, in my opinion i dont think thats such a great idea since she broke up with u once she might do it again even after some time.( from expiriance) lol and the friend thing i couldnt do cuz it was just too weird.
anyway dude keep ur head up theres a girl out there for u :cheers:
porsche986spyder
11-26-2007, 23:19
From my past experience with women all I can tell you is that women under the age of 28 usually don't know what they want in life. I'm 35 and recently met someone who is the same age as me and we have all of the same goals in life with no "hang ups". I realize now that allot of younger women are always trying to "find themselves" So for me, all I can say is make sure the girl you are going to be with for the rest of your life knows what she wants now, that way you can avoid a nasty divorce later on in life when she suddenly realizes she wants more out of her life and your not part of the equation. It took me this long to find the right person for me and I think everything happens for a reason. Hang in there, you are young and have plenty of time to meet Mrs. right, not mis right now. ;)
Hi DJ, sorry to hear about the brake-up, don't try to understand why she left you but how she left you. Like you said she's been thinking about it for a while and didn't know how to tell you. My advice is to stay in touch and give her the space she needs, in the mean time keep yourself busy and stay strong. Look forward to the future and not dwell on the past.
I know it hurts, good luck ;)
AUDIOGUY
11-27-2007, 01:57
Always look at every misfortune as an opportunity! Just think, you are young, handsome, single and you drive a Porsche!!! What else could you wish for.
I know it isnt that easy, but think of all the opportunity you have to do things for yourself that maybe you didnt have the chance to do with your girlfriend.
Something positive will come of this... either leading to a new, better relationship or re-kindling your past relationship with some time off.
Best of luck my friend!!
Sorry to hear about your situation. I could offer all sorts of advice but I think I'll wait until I've had one too many and am slurring my speech and typing (jk!). ;) You have a good head on your shoulders (heaven knows I didn't when I was your age) and I'm sure everything will work out when the dust settles whether it be with or without her.
:cheers:
Hi Dj, I'm sorry to hear about what is happening to you, its happening to me too with my wife of 13 years. I too have been nothing but nice so I really don't understand it. I think the comment about finding out who she wants to be is true of what's happening in my case. I feel it's her decision and although I've tried to dissuade her, there is really nothing I can do. The hardest part for me is that we have two amazing children together and I don't want this to hurt them. In my case we have to remain friends. Hopefully she changes her mind.
Hang tough, fella. Sometimes people need some space, and she may have been feeling that way for awhile without telling you, til suddenly she lowers the boom. Just remember, though, that just because you've broken up, it's not by any means necessarily a permanent condition. A woman doesn't hang with somebody for 2 1/2 years without there being some kind of positive chemistry.
You may or may not ever get back together, but know this: If you do, odds are it'll be an incredibly strong reunion and relationship. Give her her space. (I learned a long time ago, if a woman needs some time off, the more you try to hold on the uglier it gets.) Be cool, not stand-offish, but cool. Don't be desperate, jealous, whatever. If a reunion is in the cards, odds are good she'll call you. A little distance on your part can be intriguing as hell to a woman you had a long relationship with but who, for whatever reason (well thought out or not), decided to break things off. Give her time. You're a kid, you got lots of that. In the meantime, have some fun on your own.
Those dog tags you got around your neck??
Perfectlap
11-27-2007, 05:00
Act like you are happy with the situation (as far as she can see) and have some fun. This will make her want you more than if you chase her now. Hang in there! :D
so true....I once chased a girl for a rindonkulus lonnnnnng time,. Then I figured out I was working against myself. NO BODY was giving her the kind of attention I was so she began to think that I was "the safe bet" that I would always be there for her to fall back on. Somehow she got it into her head that I would come running back to her once she was good and ready, sorted out her life and was done exploring her other "options". I acted as if everything was cool, never called her and sure enough just like clockwork she would come a callin'. This girl was a 10 but she was waaaayyyyy spoiled, she reminded me of the family cat. The longer I left the cat outside the happier it would be when I did let it back in the house, the more often I kept the cat food bowl nice and full, the less grateful it became. So I decided it was time for this girl to go on a cat diet. Women are very feline. Lay it on thick in begining but then you have to stop trying to win them over, they'll never have it as good.
Hi Dj, I'm sorry to hear about what is happening to you, its happening to me too with my wife of 13 years. I too have been nothing but nice so I really don't understand it. I think the comment about finding out who she wants to be is true of what's happening in my case. I feel it's her decision and although I've tried to dissuade her, there is really nothing I can do. The hardest part for me is that we have two amazing children together and I don't want this to hurt them. In my case we have to remain friends. Hopefully she changes her mind.
Wow... in the midst of a thread that is about a dating breakup, funster posts about his breakup that is infinitely above and beyond anything that a dating breakup could ever be.
Funster, I've been there... and in a year or two, you'll get some clarity. I know that I did. It's unbelievably difficult, and so hard to be clear-headed about things. In the end, no matter the outcome, if you can look at yourself in the mirror with a clear conscience and know that you did the right things, that's what's important. Huge issues now become trivial later. My son is 21, and I can have a civil conversation with his mother (ex-wife) and her husband. It wasn't easy, but it was worth it.
DJ, better now than later. Yeah, it hurts, but you have no strings. You can't force it, it's there, or it's not. Life is way too short to hope that someone will come around. She's telling you loud and clear. It's time to take care of you.
I feel your pain. I got dumped by my girlfriend of two years back in August. I thought I was going to marry her...
http://www.loamy.com/shared/Tine04.jpg
http://www.loamy.com/shared/WeTwo.jpg
I was completely shattered. Threw me into shock--couldn't work, couldn't sleep, couldn't eat--lost five pounds that I can't afford...haha. Still not eating very well.
It's hard to remember how to eat alone, how to sleep alone, etc. But it gets easier with time. I have been falling back into habits I haven't had in over two years. Before this gal, I was single for six years--on purpose, even.
She was pretty young inside... just 25 year old, and a very young 25 at that. Had different ideas of what she needed out of life right now and didn't see how I could fit in there. I feel I didn't treat her with the respect she needed too, so I've learned something at least. But wow, she's good--she went completely cold-turkey. No "let's be friends", no answering my calls, etc. It's not that she's cold, she's just strong... alas.
On the upside, I jumped back on the horse sort of. I'm not over her, but I've been out and about a lot. Met a gal recently and we're dating now...
http://www.loamy.com/shared/morning.jpg
but it still feels weird. And to lose someone that you're so devoted to... don't know when I'll be ready to be that serious about someone again. blah.
Hope you feel better soon. You won't of course, but hey, ya gotta go through it and you'll come out stronger and wiser. Good luck!
Gary in BR
11-27-2007, 06:33
My wife sat down next to me and thought I was reading about carbon fiber or more horsepower. When she saw this thread she read it 3 times. She did not realize that for a bunch of guys we actually talk about more than our cars (global warming ;) ).
Sharing with her a little of our community made me grateful that 5 years ago i had my heart ripped out after a 7 year relationship.
Again, my advise is to focus on other things than her, take some time off from her and anyone else. Learn to be by yourself again, after a few months you will be ready to find a new relationship.
Learn what went wrong so you do not repeat the same mistakes and learn what was right so you may repeat them.
You always have us.
BTW,
Heres Angela and she says she has many cousins all over the US that need good men. I only let her lean on the light and not apply too much pressure to the hood.
DJ
Wow....just catching up on the posts. Been away too long.
So sorry to hear...but if it was meant to be then she'll be back.....BUT then the question is raised given what has occurred....Do you want to spend the rest of your life with her?
Cheer up...think of the bright side.....better knowing now than later....
Got out have fun.....LIFE IS TOO SHORT
SilentThunder
11-27-2007, 15:29
Women are way smarter than any guy could ever hope to be. Maybe not in math or science, but in social aspects. Sadly manipulation and deceit are in their toolbox. My advice: let go, and find the woman that has good morals. Hard to come by in this day and age, but its worth it.
Brucelee
11-27-2007, 16:28
I am likely the oldest guy posting here and that may cloud my judgement a bit.
In my experience (only) when a woman is in a relationship with a "bad boy", there is a reason for that. There is something that they get out of the relationship that feeds some need or another.
I have rarely seen women like that stay with a "good boy" ie one that treats them well.
It is puzzling to me and it is not a rule per se, just something I have observed.
Observation 2-sometimes this breakup is an unconscious ploy or power play. The man is supposed to chase.
My advice (after having been throught this more than once) would be to NOT chase.
Go about your business and understand this is NOT about you, it is about her.
If she truely is set on you, she will come to you. If not, that is the way these things work.
Get some Klasse and shine your car!
Best of luck! :)
thx for all the support guys.
i really did see myself spending my life with her.
i know i shouldn't have said anything to her and left her alone, but i needed sme closure.
i sent her a nice email wishing her luck and all, and told her ill miss her and her family and asked her to reply back,.
she did, she said she wants to be single for long time and just be with her family.
but what is weird tho, is that we got along so great, families knew each other, visited, she loved my family, we all went to picknicks, family holidays and such, we spent a lot of time together, all that.
so its over just like that. she said start looking for other girls :(
well alright then, guess im not THAT ugly and i don't drive a 81 Olds :D
RandallNeighbour
11-27-2007, 16:54
DJ, I think you should find yourself another girlfriend ASAP.
And be sure to call your ex and share the great news about the new girl considering she's making the suggestion "as your friend."
:dance:
All this reminds me of a quote by the character who played Norm in Cheers:
"Ah, Women! Can't live with 'em...... long pause..... pass the beer nuts, will ya?"
Gary in BR
11-27-2007, 17:01
WE all feel your pain and have different ideas on what you should or should not do.
My advise would not to start looking for another girl friend right now. Take some time off it may be 6 months until your ready for a relationship, but dont force it let everything happen naturally.
Take this time to better yourself.
Boxtaboy
11-27-2007, 17:12
Agree with Randall. At this point, it is clear that if she is telling you to go on and find other women, she is comfortable with the thought of going on without you in her life. To continue chasing after her would only serve to embarrass yourself. Think of this as a positive thing, as it's good that you know now rather than later on. If you have to work so hard at making a woman want to stay with you, you're better off finding someone else who wants to do that on their own. That way, it's effortless. Even if you find a way to get her back now, you'll always worry at the back of your mind if she'll do the same thing again one day (ie. think about leaving you for another few months without giving you any hints, and then abrubtly dropping the bomb on you again.) That is too tiring my man.
Just go out and have fun. Don't stay home and dwell too much.... the more you stay home by yourself, the worse you feel and the more you have 100% chance of delaying your chances at meeting someone better for you. Force yourself to go out with friends and just have fun. Pretty soon, before you know it, you'll see someone else who will catch your eye, and all this stuff you're going thru now will all be forgotten. Keep movin forward! ;)
NickCats
11-27-2007, 18:23
Randall, great quote...
DJ, that really sucks ! The good news is, I'm sure every single one of us on the forum has been through this, and we all came through it , but it does take time. Look forward to Saturday, you, me and Sammy will have a blast !
Nick
DJ-
Since most of the folks here on this forumn are men. Here is my girl opinion....if she said to you find yourself a girl (she is feeling guilty) then she has found someone else of interest or she has her eyes on her next VICTIM.....
DJ-
Since most of the folks here on this forumn are men. Here is my girl opinion....if she said to you find yourself a girl (she is feeling guilty) then she has found someone else of interest or she has her eyes on her next VICTIM.....
my mom told me the same EXACT thing.
it just bothers me that she would look for someone else while with me, mentally and physically. so downgrading
Nick, hell yeah man, well get together and have good time
on the positive side, i installed my litronics today. just need to order the triangles, somehow i keep putting it off, i have the silver ones off my other headlights.
maxferran
11-27-2007, 19:52
DJ, since none of us know all the details, we are no good for advice on what you should do. One thing we can all agree on, however, is that you need to get over it. You can figure out the best way to do that better than we can, but I recommend having a good time in the process. We wish you the best of luck.
As mentioned, we have all gone through similar situations at some point or another, and looking back, it was always for the better. If there is any doubt in the relationship on either side, it would have been much harder to deal with 4 years down the line.
Randall, great quote...
DJ, that really sucks ! The good news is, I'm sure every single one of us on the forum has been through this, and we all came through it , but it does take time. Look forward to Saturday, you, me and Sammy will have a blast !
Nick
Dj, sorry to hear she broke your heart buddy. All the advice on here is good, so try to follow it and try not to dwell on her too much. What are you guys doing on Saturday? Autocross?
Perfectlap
11-27-2007, 20:20
I am likely the oldest guy posting here and that may cloud my judgement a bit.
In my experience (only) when a woman is in a relationship with a "bad boy", there is a reason for that. There is something that they get out of the relationship that feeds some need or another.
I have rarely seen women like that stay with a "good boy" ie one that treats them well.
It is puzzling to me and it is not a rule per se, just something I have observed.
Observation 2-sometimes this breakup is an unconscious ploy or power play. The man is supposed to chase.
My advice (after having been throught this more than once) would be to NOT chase.
Go about your business and understand this is NOT about you, it is about her.
If she truely is set on you, she will come to you. If not, that is the way these things work.
Get some Klasse and shine your car!
Best of luck! :)
boy you really hit the nail on the head when it comes to the "bad boys". :cheers:
A good guy will never work out with a woman who is drawn to drama or poor treatment. I was once with a girl who blamed an ex boy friend(it's always the first boyfriend for some reason) for her self esteem issues but over time I figured out that the problems were there long before mr. a-hole ever appeared. If it wasn't one a-hole it would have been a different a-hole. These women undermine themselves or their positive relationships sooner or later usually without reason or logic. The sad part is they always go back to the negative relationships that are almost all about control and little to do with the healthy aspects of positive realtionships.
Brucelee
11-27-2007, 20:53
boy you really hit the nail on the head when it comes to the "bad boys". :cheers:
A good guy will never work out with a woman who is drawn to drama or poor treatment. I was once with a girl who blamed an ex boy friend(it's always the first boyfriend for some reason) for her self esteem issues but over time I figured out that the problems were there long before mr. a-hole ever appeared. If it wasn't one a-hole it would have been a different a-hole. These women undermine themselves or their positive relationships sooner or later usually without reason or logic. The sad part is they always go back to the negative relationships that are almost all about control and little to do with the healthy aspects of positive realtionships.
In my experience it IS about control. When they lose it, they split. Weird, hu?
Dj, sorry to hear she broke your heart buddy. All the advice on here is good, so try to follow it and try not to dwell on her too much. What are you guys doing on Saturday? Autocross?
no autocross man, its like 0 degrees in chicago, or at least it feels like it.
the guys are meeting me for drinks and some good time, i think its very nice.
i got a few people that sent me IMs and stuff, and i really appreciate it, i really do mean that.
somehow we all like to help each other here, car related or not, its a great place to spend time.
yo dj, if you guys want you can all hop a flight to Mexico City and meet me down here for drinks! I'm down here on business till Sunday.....and from my one day about the town, there is a lot to distract from memories of the women at home :D
Yo DJ,
Sorry to hear you're hurting, man. From reading the whole thread, it looks like you got some pretty solid advice here. There are two things that stick out as important, from my perspective at least:
First, don't chase. Regardless of how you're feeling inside, project a confident, cheerful, "whatever" attitude outwardly. Be careful though that it doesn't come off as angry. Anger just means you're hurting to anyone who sees it. Chasing is perceived as (and actually is) weakness, and weakness is not attractive. It is demeaning and you're better than that. A positive, confident, matter-of-fact demeanor with everyone you come in contact will eventually be communicated back to your ex through the grapevine. This works for you either way. If she gets herself together and sees that you are strong and doing well, she may want to give it another go. Then you get to choose whether you'd like to try that or not. I can almost guarantee she won't be back if you come off looking like a grovelling little boy. On the other hand, if she's moving on permanently, the fact that she didn't devastate you by leaving might just cause her to take a good look at herself and what she's done. You also get to keep your image and self esteem firmly in tact. The break up blows, but the sting won't last nearly as long as the effects of reacting to it badly.
Second, what Fab said makes a lot of sense to me and I believe she's probably right. If your ex isn't already involved with someone else, she's likely got her eye on somebody. Trust me, I believe I've seen this before. As for you finding somebody new, don't push it. Just by virtue of being single, you're in a position to take advantage of opportunities that you weren't able to before. There are attractive women at school, out in the clubs, waiting your table at your favorite restaurant...you get the idea. And don't be surprised if you are approached in the very near future. It won't take long for the girls to notice that the nice guy with the Porsche is without his arm candy.
Hang in there, dude.
thx again guys, thx for all the comments, to me and anyone else reading, its a really good lesson, painfull one, but a lesson non the less.
im actually doing really well.
sure im hurt, sure she just left me, but you know what, i left on a good note, she knows that i didnt do anything to hurt her, and i will move on, i am sure there will be someone that will really apreciate me for who i am and not take advantage of me. i gave her 100% all my best and she knows it. i really hope she finds someone that will get her whatever it is that she wants/needs.
i mean a girl doesnt leave a guy to be singe, a girl always wants someone, so im 99% sure she found someone else, when we met she was dating someone and she just left him like that to be with me, so there it is again, she left him like that, she left me like that, and im sure the next few guys...so im not alone.
im going to a club this weekend w a friend, meeting the Porsche people as well, went out to friends yesterday for some xbox action and movies, and going to another friend today as well to just hang out, and possibly a party as well.
its kinda weird, i realized how many people i left out for a girl, people that i care about, and it kinda got me mad and i felt stupid that i spent so much time with her and just pushed everyone away.
like for instance, my cousins cousin that i lived with for few years in the same house in back in serbia, they came here and i hung out with them 2 times, and these are the people that i shared a house with.
so yeah, turns out that she wasted my damn time, sure i did have fun, but she gave me all the false hope and messed with me looks like. i never tought it would happen, but i guess you never know women and what the hell they want.
so there it is gang, its off my chest.
i am moving on without her and ill find someone that will see me for who i am.
and Chuck, what the hell u doing in Vegas, get back for some brewskis
TriGem2k
11-28-2007, 01:13
DJ,
Some very sound advise on this forum that I hope will help you out.
I've always found that music helps me get through tough times.
Best of luck to you. I hope everything works out well for you.
~James
dmcutter
11-28-2007, 01:38
Dude, had not been on the BB in a while, just caught up on your situation. I've been married almost 20 years and these are the only things I can tell you for sure. First, love will f*ck with your mind more than ANYTHING else in the world, no matter what your age. When your heart is broken, it eclipses everything else, but you just have to get over it. Honestly, it feels the same way as when someone dies.
Second, there is no way to know what a woman is thinking. Perception is reality and what they think you are thinking or what you said actually means is probably NOT what you're thinking or what you meant. I had a huge fight with my dear wife a couple of months ago and she dredged up all this shit about snide remarks I had made to her in front of my family ever since we'd been married and I'm like WTF are you talking about? Bottom line is she has her reasons which are crystal clear to her and may not make any sense to you at all, but that's where her head is at. All you can do is try to keep busy doing the things you like and have to do and don't let it distract you, and don't try to drown your sorrows in booze because that definitely does not work!
xxxalexxxx
11-28-2007, 03:57
dont worry dude, dont be pissed at the times u had with her, im sure u were having a good time while u were with her, once u have a gf its just a diff lifestyle for most ppl who are serious in their relationship. Now u can take some time for urself and in no time ull find someone who'll appreciate you and wont waste your time, dont give up on girls though, theres some awesome ones out there
Now that the pretty girl dropped you, your wad should grow pretty fast. I'd say get rid of the box and buy a 911 with you new found wealth. Then you can pull new females in a 911. also, don't be a girl and sit around and cry, go rip the gears alittle
wbaker@owrugs.com
11-28-2007, 05:42
She had something else going on, and thank God you know now. Pack up the car and head outta town for a couple of days. I say good riddance, you can do better, and don't start looking for another.
They come around when you least expect it...............................
Brucelee
11-28-2007, 14:45
dont worry dude, dont be pissed at the times u had with her, im sure u were having a good time while u were with her, once u have a gf its just a diff lifestyle for most ppl who are serious in their relationship. Now u can take some time for urself and in no time ull find someone who'll appreciate you and wont waste your time, dont give up on girls though, theres some awesome ones out there
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boxster6354
11-28-2007, 15:59
Not to be niticky, but please spell your words out completely and use proper grammar. We are try NOT to encourage text speak on this forum.
Thank you.
:)
I am so glad you use proper grammar :rolleyes:
7th gear
11-28-2007, 16:19
yo d.j.
i truly feel your situation & i'm truly sorry this happened. that's gotta suck.
one thing though, this experience will help you learn how much to appreciate the relationship you'll find that will be right. i've come to know that in times past when i've had a few girlfriends that were really airheads. when i found my wife, i was so gratified.
i hate to admit this but i'm contemplating getting out of my marriage after 20 years. (sigh) but that's another post or thread of a different subject.
grab your favorite cd and go for a nice kool drive in the boxster. after that, start your pursuit for a new gf.
laterz...
Brucelee
11-28-2007, 16:33
I am so glad you use proper grammar :rolleyes:
It is an increasingly rare ability.
Try it, you might like it!
:rolleyes:
YellowJacket
11-28-2007, 17:03
It is an increasingly rare ability.
Try it, you might like it!
:rolleyes:
Actually, as your message stands, it looks like YOU could also stand to learn a thing or two about the English language.
"Try it, you might like it!" is a comma splice. You could fix it by changing it to "Try it; you might like it.", "Try it. You might like it.", or "Try it, and you might like it."
I don't mean to nitpick, but I found it funny to see a comma splice, one of the most elementary mistakes, in a grammar-correcting post!
ihvenoideawhaturetlkingboutmangitsnotththardtoreadwhatweallbetypinaroundenglishiseglishhaha :D
Brucelee
11-28-2007, 17:20
Actually, as your message stands, it looks like YOU could also stand to learn a thing or two about the English language.
"Try it, you might like it!" is a comma splice. You could fix it by changing it to "Try it; you might like it.", "Try it. You might like it.", or "Try it, and you might like it."
I don't mean to nitpick, but I found it funny to see a comma splice, one of the most elementary mistakes, in a grammar-correcting post!
u kud be write. i don thnk my txt kebrd has that karactor. :D
YellowJacket
11-28-2007, 17:58
u kud be write. i don thnk my txt kebrd has that karactor. :D
than u shud by a nu 1.
L8r dude.
What was this thread about again? I forgot... :D
Gary in BR
11-28-2007, 18:46
OK...I think we should nix the grammar talk, or take it to a different thread.
xxxalexxxx
11-28-2007, 20:35
Sorry about the grammar Bruicelee, um I didn't know it was against the rules to say
"deff " instead of "definitely" or "u" instead of "you". I don't have time to sit at home on my computer all day and post stuff on this website; I'm usually glancing thought it while on my phone and its easier and faster to use less letters, periods, commas, etc. Regardless, this is probably the weirdest thing I've ever heard...
Anyway, good luck to you DJ hope you're feeling better
Brucelee
11-28-2007, 21:01
Sorry about the grammar Bruicelee, um I didn't know it was against the rules to say
"deff " instead of "definitely" or "u" instead of "you". I don't have time to sit at home on my computer all day and post stuff on this website; I'm usually glancing thought it while on my phone and its easier and faster to use less letters, periods, commas, etc. Regardless, this is probably the weirdest thing I've ever heard...
Anyway, good luck to you DJ hope you're feeling better
It is not really a rule. However, I do know that for me,it is difficult to read the text-based messages when you are used to full-on writing.
:)
arcticnorth
11-28-2007, 21:26
her loss,move on you only live once.and on a positive note, hell you have a porsche.millions of guys would trade there girlfriends/wifes for a porsche.so your one step ahead...
Sorry, I've been gone for a couple days, My grandmother 94 almost died, but she's going to be ok. I'm taking the best of what was in our marriage, I have lots of good memories and two great kids. I'm not mad at my wife even though I don't understand it. Not being mad makes it easier to deal with, and it's better for the kids. She definitely has her own perspective on things, and I hope she finds what she is looking for. A wise man once said " if you love someting, let it go" I think that is good advice.
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